So apologies first if anyone reading this has tagged me in a meme previously as I haven't done it, doesn't mean I don't care, just means I'm crap at doing them!
So now to the meme at hand! I have been tagged by my incredibly kind and helpful blogger friend over at Cold Tea and Smelly Nappies, the meme was originally started at More Than A Mum so her are my answers to her Mothers Day Meme!
Describe motherhood in 3 words
Rewarding, emotional, forever!
Does your experience differ from your mums and how?
Oh definitely, my mum started being a mum in her early twenties and I am in my early thirties, there was a lot less help and support for mums back then and just access to information around parenthood in general, it seems you were told how to parent rather than given choice and opportunities for you to decide on yourself. The other difference that strikes me is how women of my mums generation were expected to stay home, now we are encouraged to where so many hats, some times to our detriment, it seems like there is more pressure on mums to be everything and be the slimmest, most successful, having it all mum, too many balls to juggle. Their is a lot to be said for supporting your fellow mummies - right down off soap box!
What's the hardest thing about being a mum?
For me, it's the toil it takes on my emotions, not just dealing with PND when it rears its ugly head but the thought of worrying about my precious girl the rest of my life, will she be safe?, what if something happens to her? How will I cope? This used to really overwhelm me in the early days, oh and sleepless nights!
How has it changed you?
In many ways but generally it has made me a better version of myself, I'm stronger, more determined, more thoughtful and aware of my actions, what I do, want I want more daughter to learn from me about life!
What do you hope for your children?
True love, happiness in what they do and the courage to be who they really are!
What do you fear for them?
That they will never get to follow their dreams and that they are inheriting a scary and unstable world, I worry about their future a lot in this way :(
What makes it all worthwhile?
My daughter beauty and getting to share as much of her amazing life with her that I can, seeing her smile, watch her grow in to an amazing little person and knowing that her dad and I have created this little family together out of love!
So her are 5 ladies who I think are pretty cool and would like to tag on to this meme!
Beauty and the Bling
Keeping Up with the Joneses
40 Something Undomesticated Devil
Babyrambles
Metropolitan Mum
I look forward to reading yours!
Showers of the baby kind!
So as I mentioned my SIL is expecting her first baby and we are all verY excited, I may be a little too much! Anyway she has agreed to let me throw her a baby shower and I am so thrilled about it, so have put my little brain to work!
I never had one with my little cutie, I always said I would but it just never happened and I regret it a little so I am looking forward to using some of my ideas on her (not sure she knows what she's letting herself in for!).
I have been busy scouting the Internet for themes and ideas and have come up with some great stuff, I am even going to try my hand at making my own Nappy (or diaper)cake for her as a gift from me, her brother and LC! Will let you all know how it goes!
Did anyone else have a baby shower?
Got any fun ideas or tips you want to share?
Weather forecast for today.........big black clouds are rolling in!
Today I woke up with enthusiasm and motivation, great! But soon things went quickly down hil, I had already thought about my obsitcles and decided that to get on with my day and feel good about it I would just completely remove it, BUT after an incident occurred to remove it became no longer an option. This made me really mad and completely knocked me back, not so much the fact that I was no longer moving the obsitcles but the emotion that came and settled in me in the aftermath of the incident! I wish I had dealt with it then but I wasn't the right time and to be honest this conversation has been had a thousand times and nothing seems to change, it feels like I'm talking to a brick wall!
So I feel angry and sad, which leads me to feeling pointless and low and not wanting to spark into action in making my life the best it can be, which just leads me to feel more angry and sad!!
I have been trying to think about my pearl of wisdom, what advice would I give me?
This reminds me of something I read on having a compassionate mind and by accepting my feelings and showing myself some kindness can help to start lifting me up. I do want these black clouds to roll away but am not sure how long it will take, but I can start by stepping outside of myself for a minute and give myself a hug and some kind uplifting words, and hopefully this will help.
Thing is, now it seems like I don't just have one obsitcles to over come today but many.....sigh!
So I feel angry and sad, which leads me to feeling pointless and low and not wanting to spark into action in making my life the best it can be, which just leads me to feel more angry and sad!!
I have been trying to think about my pearl of wisdom, what advice would I give me?
This reminds me of something I read on having a compassionate mind and by accepting my feelings and showing myself some kindness can help to start lifting me up. I do want these black clouds to roll away but am not sure how long it will take, but I can start by stepping outside of myself for a minute and give myself a hug and some kind uplifting words, and hopefully this will help.
Thing is, now it seems like I don't just have one obsitcles to over come today but many.....sigh!
Monday's "Moment of Wisdom" - Pearl Number 10
Monday 19 March 2012
"It is easier to be wise for others than for ourselves." - Francois De La Rochefoucauld
This week's pearl is going to kick my butt into action, I hope! As usual I got a little behind with life last week when I had my mum staying with us (although she did do a fab job on completely vanishing my ironing pile, good old mum!).
I really do spend a lot of time being wise on the behalf of others (it's my job!) but as I've mentioned before I am rubbish at carrying out my own advice, so this week I'm being wise for myself and focusing on my own problems and solving them in a way I would for others!
It's all about a little self indulgence to help me tackle the big tasks, so let's see if I manage to get somewhere by the end of the week - I also have my new iPad 3 to hand to help me find the answer to everything!
This week's pearl is going to kick my butt into action, I hope! As usual I got a little behind with life last week when I had my mum staying with us (although she did do a fab job on completely vanishing my ironing pile, good old mum!).
I really do spend a lot of time being wise on the behalf of others (it's my job!) but as I've mentioned before I am rubbish at carrying out my own advice, so this week I'm being wise for myself and focusing on my own problems and solving them in a way I would for others!
It's all about a little self indulgence to help me tackle the big tasks, so let's see if I manage to get somewhere by the end of the week - I also have my new iPad 3 to hand to help me find the answer to everything!
Monday's "Moment of Wisdom" - Pearl Number 9
Monday 12 March 2012
Here I am better late than never!!!.................
"There is no way to be a perfect mother and millions of ways to be a good one" - Jill Churchhill
Well I thought this was so perfect and very fitting for the week ahead. It's Mother's Day on Sunday and the reason I am so behind on my pearl posting today is because of my dear old mum. I have spent all morning cleaning ready for her arrival then met her for lunch and a girly afternoon of shopping. She is visiting all week and we have lots of fun stuff planned with our little cutie!
I have the privilege to support so many mothers on a daily basis through my job and a common topic of conversation is always around our abilities at being a successful mummy and taking care of our brood, no matter how big or small, in age or in number!
Us mums always seem to doubt our decisions and forget to follow our instincts or have confidence in those abilities and know what our kids need. I like how this pearl reminds us that we can all be unique in our styles and really (unless it's at detriment to the child) there is no right or wrong way to be a mother and encourages to embrace ourselves for who we are!
I constantly stress out about what I do, am I doing it right, what if I mess her life up forever, but them I stop, take a moment, look at her happy smile, forget about what the lady down the road thinks and with a little help and support from my mum, remember that I am the expert on my child!
So here is my little cutie down on the farm visiting the cows and the sheep, who were looking after their babies, the lambs really were so sweet and my "LC" just wanted to kiss them all. The weather was glorious and we took Daddy, MIL and Auntie L too, we all put on our wellies and trampled round barns in the mud. "LC" was beside her self with excitement and kept squealing and shouting "Cows!! Mooo!!" and "Sheep!!, Baaaa" As it was the farm of one of MIL's friends we were able to get up close and personal with the animals and it was an experience I hope my little cutie will never forget! Here are some pictures! So all that's left to say is "Happy Mothers Day" to all those mummies out there, you are doing a great job!
"There is no way to be a perfect mother and millions of ways to be a good one" - Jill Churchhill
Well I thought this was so perfect and very fitting for the week ahead. It's Mother's Day on Sunday and the reason I am so behind on my pearl posting today is because of my dear old mum. I have spent all morning cleaning ready for her arrival then met her for lunch and a girly afternoon of shopping. She is visiting all week and we have lots of fun stuff planned with our little cutie!
I have the privilege to support so many mothers on a daily basis through my job and a common topic of conversation is always around our abilities at being a successful mummy and taking care of our brood, no matter how big or small, in age or in number!
Us mums always seem to doubt our decisions and forget to follow our instincts or have confidence in those abilities and know what our kids need. I like how this pearl reminds us that we can all be unique in our styles and really (unless it's at detriment to the child) there is no right or wrong way to be a mother and encourages to embrace ourselves for who we are!
I constantly stress out about what I do, am I doing it right, what if I mess her life up forever, but them I stop, take a moment, look at her happy smile, forget about what the lady down the road thinks and with a little help and support from my mum, remember that I am the expert on my child!
So here is my little cutie down on the farm visiting the cows and the sheep, who were looking after their babies, the lambs really were so sweet and my "LC" just wanted to kiss them all. The weather was glorious and we took Daddy, MIL and Auntie L too, we all put on our wellies and trampled round barns in the mud. "LC" was beside her self with excitement and kept squealing and shouting "Cows!! Mooo!!" and "Sheep!!, Baaaa" As it was the farm of one of MIL's friends we were able to get up close and personal with the animals and it was an experience I hope my little cutie will never forget! Here are some pictures! So all that's left to say is "Happy Mothers Day" to all those mummies out there, you are doing a great job!
A little something for the weekend.......
Friday 9 March 2012
It's Friday!!!! And it seems like I have more things to do than time to do it, hmmmm. Anyway I wanted to share some of my weekend activities so, we are planning to take our Little Cutie to the farm to see some newly born baby lambs, (I think mummy and daddy are more excited by this!), I plan to finish the dress I'm making with my MIL and we plan to have a scrumptious roast with our family on Sunday!
I will also be catching up on my new favourite blogs so here is my picks for Follow a Newbie Friday
Cold Tea and Smelly Nappies - talking about being a super mummy and her efforts to bake her first cake! I love this blog and it reflects my thoughts on what being a mummy and a woman is all about!
Mummy Daddy and Me Makes Three - is celebrating her birthday this week, go give her your best wishes! This is a sweet little blog that is great to look at and lovely to read!
BabyRambles - hits the nail on the head for all of us with those "oh so familiar moments" of being a parent! A refreshing , amusing and enjoyable blog to read!
Hope you enjoy catching up on these new blogs as much as I have this week!
Happy Weekend to everyone!
I will also be catching up on my new favourite blogs so here is my picks for Follow a Newbie Friday
Cold Tea and Smelly Nappies - talking about being a super mummy and her efforts to bake her first cake! I love this blog and it reflects my thoughts on what being a mummy and a woman is all about!
Mummy Daddy and Me Makes Three - is celebrating her birthday this week, go give her your best wishes! This is a sweet little blog that is great to look at and lovely to read!
BabyRambles - hits the nail on the head for all of us with those "oh so familiar moments" of being a parent! A refreshing , amusing and enjoyable blog to read!
Hope you enjoy catching up on these new blogs as much as I have this week!
Happy Weekend to everyone!
Celebrating one's self!!
Thursday 8 March 2012
I have never really felt like "a woman", in fact I still have days now when I feel like a 15 year old girl! But now that I am approaching my 35th birthday and have gone through some major life changes I'm starting to get a bit more comfy with this title.
I think that maybe becoming a mother has helped this and I'm sure others will agree with me on this. Before baby came I still had so many of my girlish ways, playing at life dipping in and dipping out of things, I had made a commitment to this guy who said he wanted children with me but that commitment never really rang true until our little girl arrived.
All of a sudden I wanted to be a better person, for me but for her too, I wanted to set an example, be someone she could be proud of and I wanted her to grow in to this awesome woman who will achieve great things. I knew it was down to me to guide her in to being all she could be as a woman, her dad has all the smarts and will teach her endless amazing things that I will never be able to like maths, how to change a tyre and to burp the alphabet but it was my job to help her blossom into everything womanly.
All these thoughts and feelings still go round in my head about who my daughter will be and motivates me to be all I can be, this in turn has helped me to understand myself more and appreciate how much I enjoy being a woman of this world. So back to my question, what does being a woman mean to me? Well some one who has created life with the man I love, and supports others to do the same in which ever way makes them happy and proud, being able to set a good example to my peers and support them on our journey through life, being a woman means loving every bit of myself, lumpy and bumpy bits included and always knowing that I have the power to be the best I can be, not just for me but for others especially for my daughter because being a woman means celebrating that too with everyone around me!
"Oh your baby is wearing a necklace!!??"
Tuesday 6 March 2012
The beads in the picture are my Little Cutie's next size up to wear and I have got both this one and the one she wears now from Little Acorns to Mighty Oaks as they sell genuine Baltic Amber and give great advice on how to use them and care or them.
My "LC" has worn hers since 8 weeks old and I did get lots of interesting comments about her wearing it, especially from my health visitor who now sings their praises BTW! I was always having to explain what they were and that they weren't for chewing but instead how the amber is warmed by the skin and releases its oils to be a natural anaesthetic when teething.
Interestingly enough I have known some mums who also claim that they help with pain relief for the little ones generally and how they have helped when their baby had their immunisations, I too can say that my Little Cutie has never suffered when she had hers, but of course this is all just anecdotal and unfortunately there hasn't yet been any official research into whether amber beads work or not. However we are big fans and have known lots of mums and babies try them on our recommendation and sworn they were life savers!! You can also buy them as as bracelet or anklet too on other websites, just be sure they are genuine thing!
Have you tried Amber Teething Beads? What did you think?
Monday's "Words of Wisdom" - Pearl Number 8
Monday 5 March 2012
"Life is like a movie; write your own ending, keep believing, keep pretending." - Jim Henson
This weeks Pearl of Wisdom is in honour of my Little Cutie, who is absolutely crazy about these guys.....
.......... and has given her entire family the sickness bug that messed up my mojo last week!!!!
As well as all the vomiting and stomach cramps that we have endured over the last couple of days, (even poor grandma didn't escape!) we have gotten some good news!! Little Cutie is going to have a new cousin in September!! Right around her own birthday and just before mine, so September will be a busy month for my in-laws now with two grandchildren to spoil, my other half is excited to be a biological uncle for the first time and I always love my role as an aunt, we are so very happy and this new baby is much deserved to the happy couple!
It has also got me thinking about our own journey to expand our happy family and the fact that it's not quite turned out the way we had hoped for (we really expected to be expecting by now!). So this is where this weeks little pearl comes in and has inspired me to keep believing and pretending that our 3 will become 4 soon enough and that in fact I am in charge of my destiny, I just have to put my mind to it and write that happy ending!!!
I hope you all feeling inspired to write your happy endings this week??
This weeks Pearl of Wisdom is in honour of my Little Cutie, who is absolutely crazy about these guys.....
.......... and has given her entire family the sickness bug that messed up my mojo last week!!!!
As well as all the vomiting and stomach cramps that we have endured over the last couple of days, (even poor grandma didn't escape!) we have gotten some good news!! Little Cutie is going to have a new cousin in September!! Right around her own birthday and just before mine, so September will be a busy month for my in-laws now with two grandchildren to spoil, my other half is excited to be a biological uncle for the first time and I always love my role as an aunt, we are so very happy and this new baby is much deserved to the happy couple!
It has also got me thinking about our own journey to expand our happy family and the fact that it's not quite turned out the way we had hoped for (we really expected to be expecting by now!). So this is where this weeks little pearl comes in and has inspired me to keep believing and pretending that our 3 will become 4 soon enough and that in fact I am in charge of my destiny, I just have to put my mind to it and write that happy ending!!!
I hope you all feeling inspired to write your happy endings this week??
A little something for the weekend..........
Friday 2 March 2012
Follow a newbie Friday!
It's Friday already and I promised myself I would do this today as I have discovered some lovely new blogs this week that I think are really special, so here goes!!
Jennifer the Book is a sweet little blog about a new arrival and the ups and downs of inlaws! Very nicely written and a pleasure to read and I'm looking forward to reading more about her new bundle of joy!
Sixtine and the Little Things is a gorgeous blog all about Parisian mum adventures in parenting and living in my most favorite place in the world, Canada! Her little cutie is beautiful, go check her out!
And this is more of just a "thank you!" really to From Slummy to Yummy Mummy for all her support to me this week, my lovely Blogger friend (go check out her blog to it's awesome!).
It's Friday already and I promised myself I would do this today as I have discovered some lovely new blogs this week that I think are really special, so here goes!!
Jennifer the Book is a sweet little blog about a new arrival and the ups and downs of inlaws! Very nicely written and a pleasure to read and I'm looking forward to reading more about her new bundle of joy!
Sixtine and the Little Things is a gorgeous blog all about Parisian mum adventures in parenting and living in my most favorite place in the world, Canada! Her little cutie is beautiful, go check her out!
And this is more of just a "thank you!" really to From Slummy to Yummy Mummy for all her support to me this week, my lovely Blogger friend (go check out her blog to it's awesome!).
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